What is Your definition of submission?

I want to not only have a place to release what is in my brain, but a place for people to come and learn along with me.  I read a post the other day in a group I am in about the definition of submission and what it means.  I am sure that to each person it has a different meaning and I would like to share what it means to me.  I will be dissecting the actual meaning of the word submission and showing you how it applies to my life as a submissive and what I have learned through research. 

According to Websters dictionary submission means:

1. a :  a legal agreement to submit to the decision of arbitrators 

   b :  an act of submitting something (as for consideration         or inspection); also :  something submitted (as a manuscript) 

2.   :  the condition of being submissive, humble, or compliant 

3.   :  an act of submitting to the authority or control of another

For the sake of what we are talking about we will only look at numbers 2 and 3. 

To get started I want to look at a few words.  The first being "humble".  According to Websters it means not arrogant or assertive; you do not think you are better than other people.  

Being submissive, you should be humble.  You do not want to be going around making other people think that you are a bad ass submissive (even though you very well maybe). I am very guilty of doing this.  I enjoy bragging about the ass beating I took, or the list of chores I got accomplished that day.  However, this behavior in all reality should not be tolerated in certain settings, and I will be working to improve on this. 

Before you go thinking this bitch has flipped her shit, and she isn't going to talk about it at all...WRONG!  I will talk about it but in a different setting.  Instead of telling anyone who will give me 10 seconds to spill my guts, I will only be letting it out to a select few of my friends who are submissives as well.  We all need a safe place to vent for fucks sake.

The next word I want to look at is "assertive" which means
having a bold or confident manner.  To be "humble" you cannot be "assertive"; at least that is how the dictionary puts it.  Regardless of what your place is in the BDSM world you should be confident! I don't give a fuck if you consider your self a damn pig or Master you should be confident! However, here is where it gets tricky though. 

However, being confident and being humble at the same time can be fucking tricky.  You want to be confident you are doing all you can to please your D type, but at the same time you do not want to be boastful about it.  In other words own your shit but don't think it smells like roses.  You also want to be confident in your appearance.  Yea that may sound shallow, but you need to rock what ever you got, flaws and all.  Heaven knows I have many, many flaws. 

On to the last word, compliant, which means: willing to do whatever you are asked or ordered to do; ready and willing to comply; agreeing with a set of rules, standards, or requirement.  This should be a no brainer for someone who is wanting to be a submissive right?  Wrong! Not everyone is automatically compliant. This is another issue I struggle with because I am fucking stubborn.  I have the tendency to question why?  Why do you want me to do this; why do I have to do that; why are you doing it that way.  All of those questions have spewed out of my mouth to Sir at one point or another and still do.  Not because I question His authority, but because I have been one to ask questions since I can remember.  I try to quickly catch myself and apologize in most cases. 

There are some instances that I do question, again not because I doubt His authority, because I am purely interested in His thought process.  And then there are the times I ask questions because I flat out do not want to do what is asked.  Like I said not everyone is born compliant, me being one of those.

My original question is what is your definition of submission? My answer to this would be: Every one's idea of submission is different, and varies within each dynamic.  A few things remain constant though.  Every submissive should be humble.  Do not be boastful about anything in your life or your dynamic.  Be confident!  If you are confident in yourself either with how you are doing as a submissive and also as a human.  Be compliant.  If your Dom ask you to do something....fucking do it.  I know sometimes life gets in the way but if He gives you a task get it done in a timely manner!  For those of you who are naturally compliant...kudos to you!  For those of you like me....well maybe we need a fucking support group for mouthy bitches HAHAHA...let us try to not be so fucking stubborn and just do as we are told.  

My short definition of submission: be humble, yet confident.  Be bold and beautiful, yet ready to serve.  As hard as it may be do as you are told with out doubt.

Now that you have read through my ideas...what are yours? 

XOXOXO

Mattie